Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Lesson to Learn

"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change."
Thich Nhat Hanh,
Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life


  1. It's a lesson that we should all learn. I've never looked at it quite like that before.


  2. So true!! I hate when people blame others or drag them into a situation when their on the spot. I stress this to the kids all the time. Stand up and take responsiblity for ourselves.....it's hard sometimes, but it's the right thing to do.